I am not getting the respect I think I deserve from my boss

Question:  I’m very productive but I don’t feel like a get respect from my boss or colleagues and I’m thinking about starting to look for another job.  Am I missing something?

Fred:  Perhaps, and perhaps not.  Set down, in writing, the problem including some very specific examples.  Then ask yourself, “Is there anything I could have done to prevent this?  Suppose, for example, your boss held an important meeting on a day when you were out attending a conference, and you did not receive a summary of the meeting.  Ask yourself:  Did the boss know I’d be attending the conference?  Did I remind her a day or two prior?  If I did not receive the minutes, did I go to the boss’ administrative assistant and ask for a copy?

Once you have thought through your examples, schedule a meeting with your boss.  You might say, “I’ve been feeling a little out of touch and I’d like your perspective.”  Then carefully lay out what you have been feeling using examples that are not personal in nature (e.g. don’t say “you’re ignoring me”).  The example of missing the meeting is a good one.  If the boss needs more than one example give her another one.  If people are involved (e.g. someone is not carrying their weight), tell the boss the circumstances but do not use anyone’s name.  Engage in an open, interactive conversation.  In the normal rush of business activities, you may find that your boss has inadvertently been disrespectful and is surprised and sorry.  If that isn’t the case, give the boss some time to work on the things you’ve discussed and to change her behavior toward you.

Have a situation at work — either good or bad — that you’d like Fred’s advice on?  Ask about it in the comments box below and Fred will respond!


Increasing Your Marketability

All of us would love to have a job which fit the challenging job-autonomy-new and marketable skills model, but it doesn’t always happen.  You may have one boss that absolutely follows that model and then, through a normal transition, have a new boss who doesn’t follow the model at all.  In today’s world where your career progress is in your own hands, it is incumbent on you to do as much as you can to keep your skill development moving forward.

Suppose, for example, your former boss was terrific about giving you feedback on your job performance, letting you know immediately when an action you took was incorrect, and making suggestions for future direction.  Let’s assume that your current boss is introverted and seems disinterested in giving you (or anyone else) feedback.  A few suggestions might be:

  • set up a meeting with your new boss specifically to review your progress and ask for feedback
  • go to a mentor who is more senior than you, but not in a formal leadership capacity, to seek feedback on how you are doing
  • ask your human resources represented if he/she has heard feedback that could be of help to you
  • ask colleagues, who are doing the same work, what they have heard about your work
  • set a plan for yourself that includes new learning and ask for your boss’ approval

What other thoughts do you have that could be added to the list?  What is your plan, going forward, for new skill development?  What is the timeframe and what are the resources you need to implement the plan?